My daughter and I are leaving tonight to drive to Missouri for my son's graduation from Military Police school. Should be an intersting trip. One of the difficulties faced by a divorced person is dealing with her children. Even if the children are grown when their parents divorce, there are still issues to deal with. Children are basically selfish individuals (regardless of age) and are concerned about how everything is going to effect them. They have in their little heads an ideal outline for their lives. Usually that ideal outline includes Mom and Dad staying right where Dick and Jane left them when they moved out. But who said we get to follow the ideal outline for our life?
We've come a long way in the past year. We've gone through all the emotions of grieving something we all lost - disbelief, hurt, fear, anger - and now we are finally at the acceptance. This is the new normal and this is the way it's going to be from now on and we aren't all going to die from it! One mistake we did make in the aftermath of the divorce is not going through these emotions together. We all went our separate ways and dealt with it the best we could on our own. I'm hoping that during the seemingly endless hours of driving and plenty of alone time that my children and I can finally talk about all of the things we've gone through this past year and lay our old lives to rest once and for all so we can move on with our new lives.
Remember us as we travel the next couple of days and if nothing else, you know I'll come back with at least one story to tell!
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